Anti Bullying Week – Advice for carers

This week is national anti-bullying week. We wish to mark this by providing some information to our careers about bullying.

Firstly, it is important to think about some of the possible signs of bullying. These can include:

  • Unexplained physical marks, cuts, bruises and scrapes
  • Unexplained loss of possessions, clothing, lunches, or money
  • Doesn’t want to go to school or other activities with peers
  • Afraid of going on the school bus
  • Suddenly sullen, withdrawn, evasive; remarks about feeling lonely
  • Marked change in typical behaviour or personality
  • Physical complaints; headaches, stomachaches, frequent visits the school nurse’s office
  • Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, cries self to sleep, bed wetting
  • Change in eating habits
  • Waits to get home to use the bathroom. (School and park bathrooms, because they are often not adult-supervised, can be hot spots for bullying).
  • Suddenly has fewer friends or doesn’t want to be with the “regular group”
  • Sudden and significant drop in school work.
  • Talks about feeling helpless or about suicide; runs away.

Things to do to deal with bullying

  • If the child or young person is being bullied, don’t panic – it is important to stay calm and reassure them
  • Listen to them and reassure them that coming to you was the right thing to do
  • Try to find out the facts. Keep a diary/record of all events relating to bullying
  • Assure them that the bullying is not their fault. Assist them in developing strategies to deal with it.
  • Always seek advice and support from your placement manager nad the child’s social worker, making sure they are able to support you and the child in this difficult situation. It will be helpful to share any records you made with them.
  • Find out what the child/young person wants to happen next. It is important that they feel that they have some control in this situation. Discuss this information with your placement manager/social worker for the child.
  • If it is occurring in school, discuss the situation with the Headteacher/pastoral support to find a way forward
  • If it is occurring in the community, try to find strategies with the child to avoid coming into that situation. Remember, if it is really bad, it may need reporting to the police

We have written a blog on our kids page with information about what advice to give the child or young person. Please show it to children that live in your family.

You can complete some free training on the subject by going to:

Also, for advice, go to: