Here is more information for sons and daughters of our foster carers or for those who are thinking of fostering
Sometimes a fostered child might tell you something and ask you not to tell anyone. This might be to do with something they have done recently or about something that has happened to them in the past.
What do I do?
Such things can be difficult to listen to. If someone does start to tell you something, remember that it is not their fault that this has happened to them. Try to be supportive, but if the conversation is upsetting you, tell them that you think they should speak to an adult about this.
Don’t agree to keep secrets. This will not help the child in the long run. If you tell your parent/s you will eventually be helping them get the support they need. You can be a good friend to them, but it is not your responsibility to cope with everything alone.
What happens when fostered children leave?
It is part of fostering that children will eventually move on. In many cases this will be a happy event as the child will be going back to their own family, moving on to a permanent foster home, moving in with new adoptive parents or moving into their own place. However, if you have become friends with them, or just got used to having them around, you will naturally be sad to see them go.
It may be possible to stay in touch with children who have stayed with you when they leave. Speak to your parents and the social workers to see if this can be arranged. These days it is easy to stay in touch on the phone and via email. It may also be possible for you to meet up.